How to Use Jealousy to Your Advantage - The Muse

How to Use Jealousy to Your Advantage - The MuseHow to Use Jealousy to Your Advantage I used to proudly broadcast that I wasnt a jealous person. Im confident, successful, and happy, Id think to myself, while flipping my hair over my shoulder and batting my eyelashes (elend really, but you get it). I have no reason to be envious of anybody But, then I quickly realized I was only lying to myself.No, Im not necessarily jealous in the sense that I cant let my husband leave the house for a few hours without feeling the itch to constantly check in- he can grab a few beers with his buddies without me so much as even noticing at times. But, when it comes to my career success? Well, I become downright covetous.To a certain extent, I think thats natural. Our careers are competitive, so its expected that youll turn a little green with envy each time someone else reaches an achievement youve been working toward yourself.But, while a little bit of jealousy is anticipated, its still not necessaril y productive. On the contrary, really- it can serve as a distraction that only slows you down. That is, unless you learn to harness it to give yourself a much-needed kick in the pants.Sound impossible? I assure you, its not. To prove it, herbeie are three times youre sure to feel jealous in the office, as well as how you can use each one to boost your own motivation and reputation.1. When Someone Else Scores a PromotionYour co-worker was just promoted. And, while its not even a position you were in line for, you cant help but to feel a twinge of jealousy at the very thought of her pay increase and shiny new job title.Sure, you respond to that office-wide email thread with a hearty, Congratulations, Ashley and gladly indulge in a piece of that celebratory cake in the break room. But, on the inside? That green-eyed monster is slowly consuming you.When is it my turn? you ponder to yourself as you pack up that leftover cake and stick it in the fridge, I deserve a step up around here, to o How to Leverage Your JealousyTheres nothing that can inspire an intense bout of envy quite like someone else in your workplace getting promoted. It doesnt matter if you werent up for consideration or the new role isnt even in your department- everyone in your office will suddenly feel slighted.But, rather than wallowing in your own self pity and dreaming of the days youll get your own delicious way to go ice cream cake, youre better off analyzing the situation to determine what steps youll need to take to reach that saatkorn milestone.Was that newly promoted person there for a certain amount of time? Did he go above and beyond what was expected of him- such as frequently volunteering for the companys blood drive? Did he recently reach some major achievement that served as the catalyst for this next step?Yes, youre allowed to feel a little envious. But, once youve taken a moment, set those feelings aside and take a good, hard look at the situation to determine what exactly you need to do to follow in those footsteps. 2. When Your Colleague Receives PraiseYoure in a team meeting when your supervisor openly compliments your co-worker, Rebecca, on a job well done. Kudos to Rebecca for churning out such a top-notch report under such a tight deadline, he says in front of your entire team. But, what do you actually hear? Likely a little something like, Rebecca is the greatest employee this company has ever had, and shes putting the rest of you low-life schmucks to shame around here.Whenever someone else in your office receives recognition- be it praise or an official award- its only natural to feel a little envious of her success. But, theres something better you could be doing with your time and energy. How to Leverage Your JealousyFirst things first, make sure you recognize your co-workers hard work as well. You may be jealous, but you still want to be an encouraging team player.What next? Resist the urge to go head-to-head to this person. That type of passive-ag gressive approach will only breed tension, and likely only make you look a little on the crazy side.Instead, your best course of action is to file this person away as a resource who you can lean on when youre feeling stuck or have specific questions. Obviously, Rebecca knows what it takes to not only get a project done- but get it done well. So, rather than resenting her for that, why not learn from her?Do that and youll instantly turn the tables- a situation that previously existed to eat away at your confidence will now actually help you to continuously improve.3. When Your Co-worker Lands a Big ProjectYour department is responsible for handling a ridiculously daunting project, and your boss is keeping his eyes peeled for one of you to spearhead the entire thing. Youre absolutely sure that youll be the chosen one who earns that coveted spot.So, when your boss announces that Jason will be leading the charge, youre understandably surprised. This project is make or break- how could h e possibly entrust it to Jason? What does he have that you dont have?Weve all been there. Even if you didnt particularly want the assignment (it means extra work, after all), you still feel as if your boss shouldve been knocking at your door just begging you to take it on.But, thats not the way things played out. And, now youre left feeling envious of Jason- the one who apparently proved himself worthy enough of such a large responsibility. How to Leverage Your JealousySo, you werent picked to head up the entire project. Yes, thats a bit of a blow to your ego. But, that doesnt mean you cant still be involved and prove that youre a worthwhile member of the team.If the task is truly that important, Jason is likely going to need (and desperately want) some extra help. So, drop those feelings of resentment, step up to the plate, and offer to take on some additional work.Youll strengthen a relationship with your teammate, get to learn some new things, and prove to your boss and co-worker s that youre willing to go the extra mile. With all of that, youll likely be the one gaining some well-deserved recognition soon. We all feel jealous sometimes- particularly in our careers. But, just because its a natural emotion, that doesnt necessarily make it beneficial.So, the next time you feel envy taking over in the office, remember these three situations and do your best to rise above. In the end, youll be much better off.